How to Change the Structure of Self-Criticism to Improve How You Feel About Yourself
A 2-level game/exercise about your relationship with your mind (the ego) — and the 'other.'
Have you ever paid attention to your self-talk when feeling bad about yourself?
Do you speak to yourself so critically, that if you were to speak in the same manner to your beloved or a child, you would be shocked by your own words?
This is an interesting challenge for the ego, especially when we are stuck in our head and so self-reflexive that we don’t realize the problem with the ego and our identification as, “I”.
I — yes me — used to speak about myself in the worst way.
Looking back I would call my mental chatter abusive.
I was horribly hard on myself, and I think I attracted a mentor at the time who was a classic alpha-male bully. He knew how to get into my head during group coaching calls and made me feel like a helpless little boy. I looked up to him and allowed myself to trust his expertise, telling myself that his mentoring style must be helping me.
Why else was I suffering so much?
Garbage in = garbage out
Any form of shaming, bullying, or manipulation in coaching is unacceptabl…
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